As 2018 comes to a close, I find myself reflecting on not just this year, but all the 56 years I have lived. With each year that adds upon the last, I see more clearly (not physically, as that is declining, LOL, but wisely) and my understanding deepens to a level I thought I had already attained in the year prior. I think this is a natural progression of life; with age comes wisdom. At times I have said to myself, “I wish I knew then what I know now!” Well, I’m happy to say that I am at least happy that I know what I know now and know that when I think I know I don’t, and when I know I don’t, I do! (Happy New Year – that riddle is my gift to you)
As a mother of three – 38 year old, 37 year old and a 13 year old, I see the beautiful parenting “mistakes” I made which have created the perfect foundations for those little lives I brought into this world. Perfect because their paths needed my actions in some cases to assist their own personal growth.
As the Chief of Staff of the Good Knight Network I have witnessed countless families making perfect “mistakes” right in front of me. As a Holistic Health Practitioner I hear my clients recounting their “perfect mistakes.” Heck, anyone can go to the mall and sit on a bench and watch for a few minutes. Examples are everywhere. Crying kids, screaming parents, frazzed out of their minds. Witnessing those moments can make one ooch a bit because we know “There but for the grace of God go I.”
And yes, all the mistakes are beautiful and the cracked foundations are ever so perfect for them as well.
So with that, I invite you to sit back and take a few moments or maybe an hour for two and reflect. Detach yourself from the daily stress and drama of school lunches, homework, bills, rush hour traffic, ballet practice, baseball games etc and just see your perfect “mistakes” (yes, you too have made them). View your life and kids from someone else’s eyes. See how truly beautiful they are. Once you see their perfection you can help yourself and your child fill those cracks with love and understanding. It’s Never Too Late! NEVER. We can’t take our words and actions back but we can allow our kids to see we are human and help them gain a greater understanding.
Once you have established this foundation then its time to walk into the future empowered and purposeful. I leave you with this sage advice from Bruce Lee, which I share with all my clients and young people at camp. Read it and share it with your children and friends to Facilitate Illumination. It’s a great quote that. once the advice is adopted, will allow you to dwell in “Peace on Earth.”
“You will continue to suffer if you have an emotional reaction to everything that is said to you.True power is sitting back and observing everything with logic. If words control you that means everyone else can control you. Breathe and allow things to pass.” Bruce Lee
Wishing you all a very happy holiday season and of course – PEACE ON EARTH, GOOD WILL TO MANKIND